Tuesday, October 11, 2011

priorities



dear lucy and oliver ~
i know that you are too young to completely understand all that has happened in our life the past several months.  i just want to make sure there is one thing that doesn't escape you.  something that i believe is important for you to know as you grow up in our family...


last month your daddy made a decision that i hope will demonstrate to you how much he values our family and how precious you are to him.  i don't want us to forget this decision because i believe that it is a great confirmation of his priorities and of his character as my husband and your father.


after a very dry and difficult season of his career your daddy found himself presented with two job opportunities.  after weeks and weeks without a single offer this chance to choose seemed to be a blessing of abundance...we praised God.  


but we were faced with choosing...  


i prayed and prayed for wisdom about this decision.  the wisdom was given to your daddy and he made his choice with ease and confidence.  a decision that i don't know if i would have made {which explains why God gave him ultimate responsibility and not me!}.


on the one hand there was a job at one of the top golf programs in the country.  a prestigious program that paid very well and had some pretty sweet benefits.  the opportunity to work with a seasoned, well-respected coach who would likely be able to launch him into a desirable head coaching position in just a few years. 


on the other hand...
a job that doesn't pay as well.  a program that has achieved some success but is not considered an established golf powerhouse.  working with a brand new head coach. 


armed with only this information it would seem like a no-brainer to take the 1st one...but there is more to this story...
your daddy did his homework this time around and this is what he found...


there was a flip side to both jobs.


taking the high paying position at the well-known program included a trade-off...moving several hours away from family/friends.  keeping his nose to the grindstone almost every day of those few years.  reporting to work on weekends (including sundays) and holidays without much time off.  living and breathing competitive college golf.


taking the less prestigious position came with the promise of working for a well-respected man who values God and family above golf.  stepping into an athletic department that feels more like a family than a cut throat workplace.  being part of a program that is excited about college golf and supports your efforts to take that program to the highest level and mentor young men along the way.
and the kicker?  this job would put us right back in charlotte - the place we grieved leaving less than a year before.

your daddy chose well.

he could have let pride lead the way and step into a world full of sacrifices for our family.  there's no telling what condition we would have found ourselves in on the other side.
instead he saw the truth of what God was giving him back in charlotte...a job full of promise in a place that our family could flourish.

instead of spending the past couple of days at the golf course from dawn until dusk your daddy went to church with us on sunday and served the families there alongside me.  he played 'tickle worm' and 'hide and seek'  with you.  he was with us at birthday parties and trips to the store and family meals.  he read you stories at bedtime and was the prince {or the dragon} in your fairytale adventures.  he wasn't spending so much time being someone else's coach that he didn't have time to be your daddy and my husband...

for that i pray that he finds favor in his job.  that his career is blessed.  that God will take less time in the office and on the range and multiply it's effectiveness for His glory and for our family's enduring strength and legacy.

your daddy works so hard at his job.  he loves it.  but because of the choice that he made i pray that you will always know that he loves you more.  that in this life his priorities go beyond fleeting earthly success to the eternal things that will endure...