Monday, February 24, 2014

a post for parents {giveaway!}

Because, in some cases, a picture truly is worth a thousand words...this was our day...
We made it to quiet time just barely, by the skin of our teeth, and then there it was...the quiet...
The separating each to our own rooms.
The recalibration.
The rest.
I felt fresh and new when I went to retrieve them from the one hour break.  I turned the knob and the door made it about six inches before stopping abruptly.  I peered my head inside and there it was...the pile...
Mt. Defiance.

Oliver didn't want to go to his room for quiet time today.  He went...but he didn't want to.
Oliver has been having a hard time lately with a lot of things that he doesn't want to do.
Today he mounted a rebellion in the form of
every. single. item.
in his room piled in front of the door.
He was laying on his bare bed with a wicked look on his face.  I didn't know whether to scream or I took a picture and then a deep breath.

Oliver...why did you do this? {as if it mattered}

Because I WANTED to.

Well...I guess that's one way to get what you want.

Today my sweet {most of the time} boy did exactly what he wanted and then had to suffer the consequences.  He was sequestered to his room until bedtime and instructed to put everything back where it belonged.  Whatever was not in it's place would be gone.

Unfortunately for him...there wasn't much back in its place so his room is almost bare now.

Out of the corner of my eye I saw his watery eyes and quivering lip as his daddy and I removed every item left on the floor.  The quivering went straight to my heart and I thought it might break into pieces.  I wanted so badly to hug him and tell him it's okay and we'd give him one more chance.
But I wanted more for him to learn the hard lesson
that people deserve respect
that our things require our good stewardship
that you can't always do whatever you want in this world and expect things to turn out just fine.
Four year olds struggle with that one.
Actually...37 year olds struggle with that one...ask me how I know.

Being a parent isn't always easy.
I don't always get it right.
I don't know if I got that one right.
I do know that the best thing we can do is move forward in confidence and love.

Next month I will join an all-star group of speakers to share our insights on parenting at
New Life 91.9's Parenting on Purpose event.
I hope you find encouragement knowing that every one of us who will take that stage has had our own parenting mishaps.
Every one of us has been completely embarrassed and/or appalled by our child's behavior at one time or another.
And every one of us believes in you as a parent.

There are no perfect parents.
Perfect parenting is not our goal.
Purposeful parenting is.

And so the words shared by each of us next month will seek to bring both the confidence and the love back to your roles as mothers and fathers.

If you are looking for some encouragement and ideas to spur you on as a parent you don't want to miss this event.

This week I am giving away TWO TICKETS for the March 29th event!

All you have to do is share this post on Facebook, Twitter, or your blog and then let me know in the comments section here or on my FB page.  The winner will be announced on Friday!
If you want to go ahead and make sure to reserve your seats you can register HERE.

I hope I'll see you there!


Marni said...

I shared it, Elozabeth!

By the way...we have been facing the same thing with our son lately as well. Consequences are tough to swallow. Heck, I don't even like to take the bitterness of some of my choices...but God didn't promise us less hurt - He simply promised us He'll never leave us to help us through the hurting moments. We'd rather our boy strengthen through learning how to handle the consequences of his small choices now, so down the road he'll be able to handle the consequences of his big choices well.

Marni said...

Proud of you mama! You're doing good by your children not letting up on the healthy boundaries you're settings with your husband! Thank you for this post! It is such a confirming reminder to stay strong in Christ, because we are truly raising our kids to one day live fully in His care! ☺️

chksngr said...

I shared. I wish so much that it was just a quiver on my boys' faces when we take things away. Its more like a seizure with loud screaming...which has a way of making the broken heart shatter. Its so hard not to crumple when my very emotional boys get very emotional (I wonder where they get it!?!?! HAHA!) LOVE THIS POST!!!

Sabra Penley said...

I took one look at the photo and smiled. I have SO BEEN THERE! Many years ago, maybe, but the memories seem fresh. Sounds like you are a loving, godly mom, Elizabeth. So much of parenting isn't fun, but oh the blessing when we see our kids grow up to "get it." Nothing better than seeing our kids grow up to follow the Lord. Thanks for sharing your trying moments with us!

elizabeth said...

so true marni...what an encouragement!

elizabeth said...

haha!! we have the crazy flipping out responses too...neither are any fun! so grateful to be surrounded by other imperfect yet strong and loving mamas like you!

elizabeth said...

'getting it' is so what it's all about, right?! not always easy but we keep pressing on...

Meredith said...

So glad to hear another mother who shares the same struggles. With a three-year old and a five-year old, I truly “get this.” I share the same struggles and I fail miserably at times. Glad I’m not alone in this thing called “motherhood” and I appreciate your words. Blessings on your parenting event. I’m sure you will all be used to encourage many mothers to the only One that can truly equip us for the call. :)

elizabeth said...

Meredith - isn't there something so precious about hearing someone say 'me too'? glad to be on this journey with others! Blessings on your sweet family